I went for a test run last week and forgot the picture of the hairstyle I want, but I demonstrated myself that I want my hair very simple: half up, curly, with a bump because my hair is absolutely hopeless when it comes to volume, and for one of the combs I bought to go where the hair connects in the back. Like this, only with side-swept bands and curly: http://www.stylesdowntheaisle.com/Gallery_bridal_downhairstyles_1.html
She got started curling and just began pulling hair up randomly. She showed me what she'd done as far as "half up" goes (which was NOT what I wanted at all!) for all of 5 seconds and decided she wanted to see how my hair would look all the way up when I said it wasn't what I was picturing. I kept insisting I didn't want my hair all the way up for my wedding, but she kept insisting she just wanted to see how it would look. In the end, my cousin, my mother, and my cousin's boss at her salon all agreed my hair would look better all the way up. I, on the other hand, thought I looked like a friggin' Disney princess (a mix between Belle from Beauty and the Beast and Giselle from Enchanted) and MOH and another bridesmaid (both are my age) agreed with me. When I said it was cute, but not what I really want for the wedding and was more of a prom-do, my cousin seemed to be offended. My cousin is quite touchy when she's told something she doesn't want to hear and really does get on my nerves most of the time, but I was sort of obligated to include her as a bridesmaid.
Now I seem to be in a bit of a pickle. My cousin wants to do my hair the way SHE thinks it should look (which is something she always does, even when it comes to a simple haircut), but my fiance is friends with a hairstylist that I know can give me the look I want. Offend my touchy, overly-sensitive cousin and go with my fiance's friend? Or go back for another test run with pictures and see how it goes with my cousin?
Answer:
Wow. Sounds like an ordeal worthy of a sappy romantic comedy–or at least an afternoon sitcom.
You should remind your family, firstly, that this is YOUR wedding. They've all had their own–or may have their own in the future. It's YOUR day, and THEIR egos shouldn't ruin it for you. Ideally, you only get one wedding day! People can be so selfish when they want to share the spotlight.
If, after you remind your cousin (and other family) that on YOUR day you will wear YOUR chosen hairstyle, she throws a fit, let her know that you aren't going to put up with her manipulation and go with your fiance's friend.
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I would have to say offend your touchy, overly-sensitive cousin and go with your fiance's friend (: it's supposed to be your day, not hers (:
Good luck getting the style you want (:
It's your wedding and your hair. Do you really have to ask this question?
People will excuse you even if you become bridezilla. Go to the other stylist.
Go with the other hairstylist you know and trust. Your cousin will get over it.
go with a hairdresser that does your hair YOUR way. My sister in law, cousin, and soon to be father in law all do hair … i will be going to my soon to be FIL first to see how he would do my hair (which i have seen his updos and they are gorgeous !) if it doesnt work out though, i would try the other two. if nobody in the family worked out, i would make appointments with other hairdressers who will give me what i want, and not what they think looks good. I'm not very picky about my hair being done though … as long as it is curly and pretty, ill be happy !! lol go with someone else to see how they do it. if your cousin gets mad, simply tell her that as a beautician, she did an exceptional job at what her image was … but for you as the customer, you didn't get what you were asking for and it just won't work. good luck !!
go back with pictures. if she doesnt give you what youre hoping for, then go to your fiances friend. ultimately you have to love what you see on that day. no matter what youll be radiant but its your day and you deserve to be happy. now, if this was your very best friend than i could see why it might be a difficult decision but my answer would still be the same. check out this hair style…its what ive been thinking for my hair…
http://i205.photobucket.com/albums/bb132/kjk5555/wedding/hair2.jpg
go back with pictures and say "I want it EXACTLY like this when I get married" it shouldn't matter if she is your cousin or not. she should do her job properly and listen to her customer which is YOU.
but if she continues to be difficult i would just get someone else to do it who will actually listen.
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